Everyone sings their homeschool song to a different tune.
Back in the day, homeschooling was a lonely path worth treading
When I first started homeschooling, I felt happy and blessed, however there were times that I felt isolated or just plain sad.
I didn’t realize at the time that loneliness was the issue. I remember praying to just meet one homeschooling mama.
If you’re in the same predicament, I’m here for you! Understand that everything will be okay and God hears your call.
6 Tips to preventing homeschool loneliness
Here are six tips to help Muslim homeschooling mamas prevent and get rid of homeschool loneliness.
Tip 1 – Accept and embrace being a lone wolf
Being a lone wolf shouldn’t stop you altogether from homeschooling. In the world we live in today, we should get used to being the lone wolf in many predicaments.
It might be a lonely path, but it doesn’t mean that path is wrong.
What is meant for us will come, and if we’re meant to be alone in a certain season of life, then so be it. We must learn to tread this lonely path and be grateful nevertheless.
I embraced being a lone wolf and walked my own path when I was very young.
Tip 2 – Walk your own path, even without a map
Homeschooling comes without a map. This is scary!
When walking your own path, you will find that it is difficult. You don’t have a guide or a map.
You will fall flat on your face. You will feel lost, overwhelmed, and all sorts of feels.
And it will make you stronger. You will develop courage, FGod Willing.
Open the doors to this, dear mama.
Tip 3 – Use the compass within
All Praise and Thanks is to The Lord who has sent down Guidance to mankind.
The compass we need for our path has been given to us. The compass we need for our path is found within .
Pray every step of the way, and The Lord will Guide you!
The description of Salaat al-Istikhaarah was reported by Jaabir ibn Abd-Allaah al-Salami (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:
May The Lord Guide us. Ameen.
Tip 4 – Find your local homeschool tribe
Alhemdulilah, I am here to support you and walk hand in hand with you on this beautiful homeschooling path, but that isn’t enough.
The internet is different than face to face. Sometimes you need to just sit down and have a coffee with another homeschooling mama!
That, and your kiddos need companions as well.
Below are some ways to find your local homeschooling tribe, if you haven’t found them yet.
Attend prayer during the day.
The simplest way to find your local tribe is to go to Dhuhur or Asr prayer and pay attention to the children that are present. They’re probably there because they don’t go to traditional school
Ask if they homeschool. They’ll probably be excited that you reached out and that they finally found you!
We don’t have many homeschooling families in our area, and this is one way that we finally found homeschoolers.
Simply google: homeschoolers <enter your city/region>
You never know what you’ll find. You can also do a search on social media platforms by asking homeschooling groups if anyone there homeschools in <city/region>.
Start a Facebook Group for homeschoolers in your city/region
If you can’t find a Facebook Group of homeschoolers in your area, start your own.
That way homeschooling families will be able to find you through a google search. Next thing you know, you’ll be able to set up a time and place to meet in person.
If those steps don’t work, post flyers around your vicinity. You can ask your local library if they’d be willing to allow you to post your flyer on their bulletin boards.
Be sure to protect your privacy by only providing a Google Voice number and/or email that you don’t mind strangers having access to.
This is one way that I’ve met homeschooling families in the area!
Tip 5 – Reach out, even if you don’t want to.
Reach out to homeschooling mamas even if you don’t want to. Why?
We need each other.
We’ll especially need each other’s support when the critic in our head begins to speak.
And even if you don’t need it, another mama may need support. Another mama may feel lonely and not have the support of her family and friends.
Be there for her.
Tip 6 – Find good companions for your children
Although you will find comfort and support from me, your children aren’t online receiving that same comfort and support.
Your children need good companions that are available for them. Most traditionally schooled children are busy at school and their schedules are different.
You will need to find good friends for your child so that he feels like someone (besides mama and baba) can relate to him.
This has always been a constant test and trial for us.
May The Lord Bless us all with righteous companions. Ameen.
Frequently Asked Questions
What books should I read to find out more about homeschooling?
Here are a few books that I’ve found helpful:
- Are you new to homeschooling? Read the Beginner’s Guide to Homeschooling for Muslim Families and watch my LIVE VIDEO of how I can see new Muslim homeschooling mamas from a mile away!
- Read enough about homeschooling and just need a quick guide to jump in? Grab one from our Free Resource Library.
The last thing you need to know about finding your homeschooling tribe
- Pray about it